Emotional Intelligence Exercise 1

Emotional Intelligence (noun)

The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and with empathy.

"emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success"

Assessing and Managing your emotions

It is time to start paying more attention to your emotions, and

reactions.

For the next 14 days I want you to write down your emotions, and reactions, to daily events.  The more things you put on the list, the more you will learn about yourself.  

You do not want to hide your feelings because this intensifies them, which leads to behavior that is not in your best interest.

Write theses headings on a sheet of notebook paper, “The Event”,

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“Emotion I Felt”,”How I Reacted”. For each event you experience, write down how you felt, and how you reacted.  It is that simple.

After the 14 days, give your list to other people to read, and ask them if they would have reacted the same way.

Also ask them how they would have felt, and reacted to your actions.

Please do not ask your friends. It is important that you ask people who will not be motivated to agree with how you reacted because they want to maintain a relationship with you. I suggest you ask your professors, spiritual leader, supervisors, even strangers,  

Take a look at the comments from the people you asked to look at your chart, and answer the following questions:

How many of them said they would have reacted the way I did?

How many of them said they would have felt anything less than happy if they had been the person I reacted to.

Take another sheet of notebook paper and put negative or positive.

Now take a look at each of your actions and note if they caused a positive or negative situation for you or anyone else.

Will your actions cause a negative or positive event in the future. If you are creating negative events and situations, you need to stop.